"My broken wings still strong enough to cross the ocean with...My broken wings...How far should I go drifting in the wind...Higher and higher in the light " - Trinity Blood

 

 

This song says it all....how we feel when deeply hurt...dedicated to all of us who have taken our hits and move on to the future....because time stands still for no one

                                 .....whether forced by time or in time, we all must move on

                                                                                                       .... for humans are captured in the forward waves of time.

                           

                                                                                                                          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tk32O9LoV_4

In love, the second time is never the same as the first time. The excitement is not the same.  The first time you are curious and excited because of the ecstatic feelings.

 

With the second time you are more careful. And the total trust and faith in love is gone. The blinders are gone.

That which made it so special the first time is gone. It's not fear that causes this neccessarily. Instead, it is just that experience has made it impossible to live in the absolute hope.  We now see the reality of how it doesn't always work out.

With the second time people are more realistic.  In a way, the first time is more fantasy.

 

Yet, this is not always the reality of the matter...it is the reality of those who have a broken love only.  For those who stay married, stay with their first loves....the reality is that love won out.....no hope must be lost in love's full power.

This is one of the mysteries of love....experience drives our reality of what love is and isn't.

As Kenny Roger's sang in "The Gambler"....some win and some lose in the game of love.

 

So it is.

Love is a game...with deep consequences.

 

So be it.

The 90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life. What is the 90/10 Principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let's use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened: Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time." Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle: If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off! Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life!!

Are each of us a "human being", as the Native Americans once distinguished between those who were spiritually aware and those who were not, or simply an "animal"?
 
The following 3 quotes, by 3 great thinkers on the essence of what makes us trully human (conscience, morality/ethics, and free will in the present), will tell you. 
 
Think.  Who are each of us really?  Are we human or just animals in a man or woman's body?  The answer lies not in corpse, or the mind, but in our very soul.
 
"The worst condition a human being can fall into is lack of conscience." - Jean Cassou, The ethics of individual responsibility
 
"It is not who is right, but what is right, that is of importance." - Thomas Huxley
 
"The beginning is always today." - Mary Wollstonecraft

 

...And do remember, it is the existence of a conscience that makes us human, but there are good and evil human beings, but there is only one kind of animal....spiritually and morally unaware...hopeless.

 

I wonder which is worse?  The evil person or the morally deluded and lost.

"Life goes by pretty quick. If you don't slow down, you might miss it." - Ferris Bueller

 

For those of you who don't know, Ben Stein, who played the famous boring teacher for Ferris, is actually a financial columnist and major retirement investment advocate now.  It is one of the major parts of his life few know about....he has a very successful but quiet career outside of acting and entertainment.

 

The above quote was used by Ben Stein to show the need to save financially for a retirement where people could slow down and enjoy life.

 

However, in doing so he actually forgot the context of what Ferris mean in the famous movie "Fast Time....".

 

Ferris was actually talking about not letting life's responsibilities and obligations, which includes career, business, AND investments, get in the way of enjoying life itself.

 

It is true...life goes by quickly, especially when we are caught up in all of the things we think we MUST do....have you ever noticed when you just enjoy life, the days seem to often slow down?  And you relax and enjoy it more?

 

Slow down...enjoy life.  Sometimes a high scchool class-skipping teenager can teach us something valuable!!!

 

 

 

"Pain heals, scars fade, glory is eternal."

 

And those who seek peace and comes to its defense fight for the only glory that trully lasts.